. . . when we grow up with limits, we expect them. We feel we need them or we will get ourselves in trouble. We are uncomfortable with freedom. We are constantly either doing what is expected or resisting doing what is expected. In both cases, “what is expected” is determining what we do.
So when we are in a situation where we could choose to do whatever we want, we freeze. We would not know what to do because we are not used to asking ourselves what we want to do. Since we are used to responding to others’ expectations, we don’t know how to decide for ourselves.
(Excerpted from the forthcoming book – - Why Self Discipline Doesn’t Work and what to do instead)